Rather than simply leading or following, why not consider stewarding?

Associate pastors of all kinds--whether assigned to children, youth, worship, adult, or outreach--are often caught in the middle of complicated relationships in their congregations. It's an emotionally taxing and organizationally confusing position. In Associate Pastors, Michael Matthew Mauriello demonstrates how associate pastors can harness the ambiguity that accompanies their role in ways that can mutually benefit church members and other pastoral staff. The heart of Associate Pastors comes from personal interviews with twenty-five associate pastors in small-to-medium-sized churches who have served in pastoral ministry positions for more than ten years. Their shared experiences demonstrate the unique social and spiritual dynamics of the associate pastor role and suggest great promise for those willing to approach their calling with creativity and care. Specifically, when associate pastors facilitate learning within their congregations, they confer benefits on church leadership and laypeople alike. "Dr. Michael Mauriello's research is fueled by his love for God and the desire to see pastors flourish. Associate Pastors: Ministry from the Middle is a must-read for Christian leaders." --Deborah Colwill, associate professor of educational and leadership studies, Trinity Evangelical Divinity School "Dr. Michael Mauriello has written a thoughtful and well-researched guide for associate pastors who want to understand the dynamics and strategic advantages of their role. He not only understands the position, but he can help pastors serve effectively from the middle seat." --Lee Eclov, adjunct professor, Trinity Evangelical Divinity School; columnist, PreachingToday.com "This is a much-needed contribution to resources addressing the unique role of associate pastors--those who 'navigate complicated relationships as a pastoral practice.'" --Donald C. Guthrie, executive director, Center for Transformational Churches, Jeanette L. Hsieh Chair of Educational Leadership and director of the PhD (educational studies), Trinity Evangelical Divinity School