Parents don’t determine who their kids become. They steward them into who they’re meant to be.

One of the most common myths in parenting books—you see it everywhere—is that parents are responsible for who their children turn out to be. Proper input yields proper output, or so the thinking goes. But that mindset works with machinery, not people. The truth is, your child has a unique set of traits—their giftedness—that only they possess. The parent’s job isn’t to crank out a product, but to point an individual human being toward a healthy, flourishing life.

In So How Do I Parent This Child?, brother and sister duo Bill Hendricks and Bev Hendricks Godby team up to help you understand the difference between producing a product and parenting a person. They take you through all the stages of child rearing—from diapers to driver’s licenses to diplomas—to give you a comprehensive look at how identifying giftedness and helping your children discover it for themselves makes all the difference.

As a parent, you’ve got a lot of challenges ahead. But with intentionality and an individualized approach, you’ll see your kids grow up to become the mature and confident adults that they’re intended to be.