"So, are you seeing anyone?"

For the young adult in Singapore, that question carries a whole machinery behind it: the BTO timeline, the wedding hashtags, the relatives with a candidate in mind, and the quiet anxiety of falling behind. The church adds its own pressure and rarely its own answers. Underneath it all sit the questions no one stays long enough to address. How do I know if this is the one? How far is too far, and what if I have already gone too far? Why does everyone talk about marriage as though it is the only real life?

Before You Swipe Right was written for exactly that gap. It is a theological guide to love, identity, and relationships for the young adult who loves Jesus, takes Scripture seriously, and is tired of dating advice that is either a list of rules with no theology behind it or a Western romance that has never heard of a housing queue.

Drawing on the original languages of the Bible and more than a decade of pastoral and youth ministry, Glenn Seah builds a different way of thinking about love, identity, dating, and marriage. One that is honest about desire, clear about covenant, and rooted in the world young adults actually live in, apps and aunties included. It moves through six unhurried parts, from the cultural pressures that shape us, to the identity that must be settled before any relationship can be wise, to the long road from a first conversation to a wedding doorway.

It does not look away from the questions most dating books avoid: past regret, pornography, same-sex attraction, the breakup handled badly, and the decision that must be made without certainty.

Inside, readers will find a clear approach to:

• The cultural and family pressure to marry, and how to recognise it for what it is
• The myth of "the one" and why becoming the right person matters more than finding them
• Singleness as a genuine calling rather than a waiting room
• Dating apps, the talking stage, and faithfulness in a digital age
• Covenant, friendship, attraction, and what love actually is
• Honest, grace-filled chapters on purity, regret, and sexuality
• Discernment toward marriage, engagement, and the truth that the wedding is not the goal

This is not a formula for finding the perfect person. It is a guide to becoming the kind of person who is ready for covenant love, and to trusting the God who holds the outcome when you finally decide to choose.

For readers of Christian relationship and singleness books who have been waiting for one that understands the questions they are actually asking, and the world they are actually asking them in.